The Question That Helped Me Finally Find Work-Life Balance
Let me tell you a little story…
It’s Monday. You wake up exhausted, hitting the snooze button again and wishing you didn’t have to get up to get your kids on the bus, much less shower and put on make-up for work.
You stumble down to the kitchen in search of your first of many cups of coffee for the day where last night’s dishes greet you.
The thought of making another pb&j makes you grimace, but you do it anyway because who else is going to do it if you don’t?
Your kids are moving as slow as molasses as you try to lovingly encourage them to not miss the bus. Finally you just lose it and tell them if they don’t get their shoes on right this minute they will lose electronics for the rest of the day. Then you remember that is more of a punishment for you then them.
Your husband tries to “help” but it feels like he is just adding to the work. (He didn’t even offer to make the lunches. Sigh.)
Finally, kids on the bus, dog walked, and you rush out the door to the job you used to love, but now feel like you are always one step behind where you need to be. Your work never feels finished, and when it is “complete” it just doesn’t feel good enough.
You constantly feel like you are in survival mode – just waiting for someone to figure out you have no idea what you are doing.
You watch the clock, wanting the work day to be done, but also knowing there is just more work at home – homework, never-ending laundry, dinner to be made.
You scroll through facebook and see how many likes and comments you got on your last woe-is-me post. At least someone can get a laugh out of your miserable life, right?
You come home to backpacks and socks and smelly shoes and kids who don’t want to practice or do homework, plus you now have to fill out school emergency cards by hand in triplicate. (Seriously, in this age of computers they can’t figure out how to find your cell number without finding an actual piece of paper?)
You think to yourself, more than once, “When will it be time for the kids to go to bed so I can just settle down on the couch with Netflix and a (very large) glass of wine??”
It’s funny, but it’s not, right?
For too long I lived a life where I was never present in what I was doing. I was always wanting to be somewhere else. Wishing I was working when I was with my kids, or wishing I was with my kids when I was working. It felt terrible.
I thought what I needed was balance, but I just couldn’t figure out how to balance all of the things. How was it possible to give everything equal time and energy?
I felt like I should love my life. I have two great kids, a husband who loves me, a career I love, a beautiful house, friends and family who care about me…I found myself asking, “Why don’t I love my life? Why does my life feel so hard all the time and so much like drudgery?”
That question changed everything.
It changed everything because I desperately wanted to love my amazing life. I wanted to wake up with joy. I wanted to be present and look forward to spending time with my kids. I wanted to find that feeling of fulfillment I used to get from my work. I wanted to be happy…not perfect, but happy. Happy with my real life, not always wishing away what I already had.
I wanted to be living, but instead I felt like I was dying inside.
Something had to shift, and it wasn’t the things in my life.
It was me.
I realized I was going about this whole balance thing the wrong way. There was no way I could ever balance all of the things.
It was time to create a plan for my life that felt true and honest.
It was time to let go of what I should be doing and step into what I had to be doing (two totally different things, I quickly discovered.)
It was time to honor who I was instead of always trying to be who I thought I should be.
And it changed my life.
My kids still go slow in the morning. I’m still making lunches every day. There are still messes (so many messes) in my house. Guaranteed I can always find at least one dirty sock laying around in my living room. I still have a crazy schedule.
I am here. I am fully present. I feel balanced. I feel love and gratitude for the life I have. I don’t feel like I’m spinning out of control all the time. I don’t feel like I’m always in fake-it-till-you-make-it mode.
I am HERE.
And I’m so excited to share with you how I did it.
Join me on Wednesday, October 5 at 2 p.m. EST/11:00 a.m. PST for a free live online workshop.
I will sharing with you the step-by-step instructions of how I found the secret to work-life balance and started loving my real life.
During this workshop you will discover:
- you aren’t the only one who feels like they are constantly in fake-it-till-you-make-it mode
- an awareness that balance is really possible
- a step-by-step strategy to get aligned with the life you want to live and the feelings you want to feel, so you can finally find the secret of the elusive work-life balance.
- how to feel the way you want to feel: balanced, joyful in all areas of your life, energized, and excited for living
If your life feels like a piece of IKEA furniture with a thousand pieces and no instructions, this workshop is for you.
This is something that I HAVE to share with you. My soul is demanding it. I promise you it will transform the way you think and feel about your life.
P.S. Can’t make the time? No worries! I’ll be sending out a replay to everyone who registers. Be sure to sign up today!