For most of my life I have been “the good girl.” Good grades, rule-follower, blah, blah, blah. Even in college I rarely just let go. I did have one summer where I gave myself permission to just let my hair down and have fun, and it was the best summer of my life.

Now in my 40s, I’m realizing that my efforts to be “good,” to please people, to do what I think I “should” do, often keep me from honoring my authentic self.

Sound familiar?

How often do you stay quiet when your soul is telling you to speak up?

How often do you suppress your instinct to be spontaneous or do something crazy that will make your kids laugh with joy or roll their eyes in embarrassment?

How often do you wait to show your love because it’s not a good time?


Every time we squash down what our soul needs us to do, we are saying we are not enough. We are saying we are not worthy to honor ourselves. We are telling ourselves to not be true to ourselves, and the more you do it the easier it gets to just disappear into a person that isn’t really you anymore. A person that doesn’t feel comfortable in her own skin. A person that is hiding.

And here’s the thing…even if you do what you should do, you still can’t make everyone happy, especially yourself!

Ask yourself, “what does my soul need right now?” Then make a vow to honor the answer. Listen and do.

What does your soul need right now?

What would it feel like to let go of your “shoulds” and soar?


If you are ready to let go of the shoulds and step into your worthiness by honoring you each and every day, check out our free Week of Worthy 5-Day Challenge.